Hidden talents in adversity

Adversity has the effect of eliciting talents which, in prosperous circumstances, would have lain dormant. [Homer]

Approaching my 70th year, I look back on my life and reflect upon where I started and how far I’ve come and have to say that my adversity, such as it is, did, indeed plant the seeds of my talents, wrapped in my tenacity to press on ‘in spite of’.

  My talent for writing, a gift I shared with my late father and uncle, both doctors,  allowed me to take on the role of mentor, early in my growing up and work life and later on, as I moved to the online world, sharing what I know about life and living with disability. My uncle went on to have a successful 2nd career as a newspaper columnist offering medical advice. His columns were later developed into a book; I have a signed copy. Lucky me! 

I was a regular contributor to an international publication on disability, the now defunct Ability Network. In fact, in April of 1997, I was their cover story. OMG, I’m a glossy pin-up girl!

Dad and uncle would be pleased to know that I’ve found a niche online, particularly since aging with cerebral palsy has impacted my ability to move about easily and freely in the day to day, touchy feely real world.

 In today’s internet connected world that links us together in ways that we never could have imagined 20 or 30 years ago, we have opportunity to simultaneously explore many avenues of interest, shifting from one computer screen to another; taking it all in, like a greedy puppy.

With all the technological advancements that enhance learning opportunities, why do so many still struggle? Talent and tenacity isn’t always enough. And so enters mentoring. Someone who believes in what you can do and is willing to share what they’ve learned on their own journey so that yours may be easier. 

Simply put, many students, young or old, rely on people power to enrich their learning process.  Joining with one or two, three or four people not only allows for sharing ideas to organize thoughtful study, it’s a way to network to establish other relationships that may be more social in nature. Aligning with another who’s been there, done that is one of the best ways to ensure that what you’re diving into is going to stick. Social interactions are critical to development, from cradle to grave. 

Mentoring men and women of any age who need a guiding hand is a way that those who have talents to share are able to do so with the knowledge that they are lifting up others to a more level playing field. That is always a good thing. The beauty of it is that, over time, there’s a reciprocity as students become teachers and coach others in skills needed to advance in school or in the workplace.
Families living on the financial fringes trying to raise children through the various ages and stages of development and education very often struggle with the cost of it all. Joining forces with a mentor or two is a way for them to keep up with less physical and emotional strain, which is so draining on a family’s resources in the long term and makes the jobs of Mom and Dad more challenging.

Mentoring has no specific age requirement but it reasons that pre-potty trained  toddlers aren’t quite up to the challenge, though some would have a go at teaching a playmate how to make chocolate milk. Get out the video camera.

Children who come into the world with any sort of impediment or challenge to daily living and inclusion, however developed, have to be guided carefully if an intact intellect is present so that they can become students, however adept, of a range of disciplines, whether it’s colouring, weaving, learning to type, telling stories. The processes of ‘getting there’ are unique to the individual and teachers must step back, wait and watch to see what happens. 

Within a group of youngsters, there will be one or two or three who will quite naturally step into the role of mentor. Let them. That’s their own learning at work. All manner of skills are learned in an environment that’s not particularly structured. That, alone, makes the steps more easily remembered and put into action the next time. 

Children with disability are presented with many opportunities for inclusion that are compatible with their situations so that they are able to experience even a modicum of success without fear of failure. Feelings of insecurity often weigh particularly heavily on children who struggle to find their place in a peer group; for some, who have the gift of language, mentoring becomes easier as confidence grows. Leading reading groups is often a great place to start. Teachers and other adults in their world should encourage after school reading circles. It’s a great way to expand social circles outside of the classroom and it takes the pressure off the struggling reader as he expands his portfolio of talents. Talents that will carry him through his academic career and beyond. Community theatre is another avenue that children with challenges can explore. 

So many opportunities are available today that weren’t even thought of when I was in grade school. Endless possibilities for multiple opportunities. 

Get out there and make your own mark.

Carla MacInnis Rockwell is a freelance writer and disability rights advocate living outside Fredericton, NB with Miss Lexie, a rambunctious Maltese and Mr. Malcolm, a boisterous Havanese. She can be reached via email at:Carla MacInnis Rockwell